What is your Emotional Set Point?
The Emotional Set Point simply means the median, or average, of all your daily emotional highs and lows. As you experience different moods or feelings throughout the day, you travel up and down the emotional scale. From joy, appreciation and love to anger, anxiety, sadness and guilt. It also determines your energy vibration, whether you are mostly flowing joyful fast energy, or unhappy slow energy.
Emotions are part of your built-in human guidance system, giving feedback about your overall mood. They signal to you to pay attention to what you are doing or thinking. To make you notice whether a thought you are holding in that moment matches what you want. If you experience an emotion that makes you feel good, you’re in harmony with your desires. And vice versa.
Emotions are also pointers to your energetic vibration in that moment, whether you are currently in line with your Inner Being, which is your non-physical self – your soul essence, your true nature. When you are feeling worthy, loving and lovable you are in line with your inner self. But when you are self-critical, depressed and sad, there is a gap between where you are at and your true nature, your Inner Being. Furthermore, when you can sense this gap, for the most part subconsciously, it leads to further feelings of general dissatisfaction and discomfort.
When you are experiencing positive emotions, you are helping manifest what you want in life by putting out positive energy. When you feel negative emotions, you are blocking yourself from your source energy, and so blocking abundance. Continued negative emotions start to attract negative experiences in your life.
The Emotional Set Point Scale
The illustration at the top of this page gives a basic visual scale to help you judge where your own Emotional Set Point is currently. It’s a natural part of life for emotions to fluctuate throughout the day, but you can get a feel for where you are at predominantly. Then you can set about moving your Emotional Set Point a couple of places towards the positive side of the scale.
Making small shifts up the scale, rather than a big leap, is easier to achieve and more likely to produce longer-lasting results. During the day, try to be aware of which emotions you are experiencing on the scale. Then you can shift that negative emotion to a better feeling emotion on the scale by changing what you are focusing on.
Of course, we don’t only feel only one emotion at a time, it’s often a combination. But this scale gives an illustration of how different emotional states can feel better or worse compared to other emotional states. It helps to familiarise yourself with the process of identifying where you are on the scale at in any moment. Then you can search for a better feeling thought.
How can you improve your Emotional Set Point?
Your Emotional Set Point is affected by how you respond to life events. How quickly you bounce back when something happens that doesn’t match what you want. How good you are at searching for a better feeling thought and shifting your attention there. This is an important skill to develop.
Although we measure emotions or feelings as being negative or positive, it’s really just information. A negative emotion tells you there’s something you might want to change, because what you are doing, or thinking, is not bringing you joy. Rather than trying to just suppress the negative emotion, it’s helpful to look at what might be the root cause of the feeling. You can explore how you can change things, where possible, by making different choices. First of all it’s important to notice when your mind is falling into a pattern of stressful thinking and limiting beliefs. There are further tips to help with this in Free yourself from negative thinking.
Then you can reach for better feeling thoughts and emotions and move your Emotional Set Point up the scale to a more positive state. Whatever you focus on is what you get more of.
Technique to improve your emotional state
It helps to remind yourself of the things that make you feel good. Then you can call on them easily whenever you notice your mood and emotions are in the bottom half of the scale. You can write a list of things you like, memories or activities that make you happy and make you feel good. Then you can use these to bring in pockets of joy to your day, to help you move up the scale a couple of places whenever you have a blip in your mood.
Make a list:
You could start by making a list of around 15 things that bring you joy. For example:
- 5 things you like to do that make you feel good. This could be anything that makes you happy. For example, singing, dancing round the kitchen, listening to certain music, or laughing at funny cat videos. And then do them, wherever possible, whenever you notice a blip in your mood. Although that doesn’t mean overindulging – chocolate cake for example. Because ultimately that doesn’t make you feel good. (And obviously, if you have a problem with over-eating, you wouldn’t include food in your lists. Equally, if you have a problem with alcohol, you wouldn’t choose to have alcoholic drinks on your lists.)
- 5 things that make you happy when you think about them. Then think about them when your mood is low. It could be a favourite person, place, meal or a joke you remember. It’s possible to call on these in any difficult situation. For example, when you’re sitting in the dentist’s chair you can mentally sing a song you love in your head. (Although the dentist might not appreciate you trying to sing it out loud!) It distracts your mind and boosts your mood.
- 5 memories of a time when you were very happy. Then later you call to mind the memories to boost your mood. However, you should feel them as if you’re experiencing them in the now. For example a time when you were drinking a cocktail on the beach – taste the drink, feel the sand beneath your toes, feel the heat of the sun and all the sounds and smells around you. This strengthens the positive impact.
Then, whenever you notice your low mood, you can choose to soothe yourself with thoughts of these things you like. Just a simple change in what you are focusing your attention on moves you up the emotional scale towards more positives. And so you improve your Emotional and Vibrational Set Point.
Why is it good to speed up your vibration?
Everything is composed of energy vibrating at different frequencies, even the ground and the rocks under your feet, which have a slow vibration. When you speed up your energy vibration, you can flow more of the energy of your Inner Being, your life force. This leads to greater wellbeing and vitality, slower aging, more intuitive flow and more flow of innate joy.
What’s more, as more people speed up their energy, it speeds up the Emotional Set Point of the whole earth population. This means there is more balancing out of the energy of those stuck in slower vibrational fear, self-doubt, anger and vengeance etc. Those with a faster vibration tend to have more understanding of the oneness and interconnectedness of us all. Those with a slower vibration tend to be stuck in the individual and tribal mentality. They feel the need for competition – survival of the fittest. People with slower vibrations are led more by their monkey mind than their inner guidance. (Learn more about the monkey mind in Free yourself from negative thinking.)
Becoming more aware of your own emotional guidance system, and taking steps to consciously choose better-feeling thoughts, helps you to come more into alignment with your Inner Being. This is your innate, natural source of joy.
Other tools to help you improve your Emotional Set Point
Self-love is fundamental to having a good Emotional Set Point. This is because you must first be able to love yourself in order to truly be able to love other people. You can’t feel true happiness if you haven’t learned to be happy with yourself. Learn how to be comfortable in your own skin, so you can then be truly comfortable with others: The importance of self-love and self-esteem
You shouldn’t believe everything you think. Learn how to break the vicious circle of limiting negative thinking patterns that keep your Emotional Set Point low: Free yourself from negative thinking. Read more tips to change the focus of your thinking to more positive, joyful ones in: Change your negatives to positives
Meditation is a very effective tool to increase your flow of wellbeing and positive emotions. What’s more it’s free, and once you learn how, you can do it practically anywhere. Learn more in: The benefits of meditation for stress relief and better health
Your Inner Being is the source of your inner joy, your true nature. As you improve your Emotional Set Point, you expand your connection to your Inner Being. And conversely, as you learn to expand the connection to your inner self, more joy flows to you naturally: Get to know your Inner Being
The key to manifesting your dreams and whatever you want in life is to practise FEELING often the joy that you will have when what you want has manifested. Learn how to practise feeling it in the NOW, to draw it into your reality: Manifesting your dreams
Prolonged negative thinking and a negative Emotional Set Point can lead to physical illness. Learn how to break that pattern to have a positive impact on your physical health: What creates illness
Tonal Alignment spiritual activation
When you’ve got your Emotional Set Point into a good, more positive place, you may choose to have the Tonal Alignment. This is a two-part spiritual activation which helps to fix your Emotional Set Point at a positive state. It then builds on that positive state for spiritual growth. It also helps to expand your connection to your Inner Being, for greater wellbeing and inner peace.